Commitment,Intention,Meditation.......

I awoke this morning with unease in my heart, I cannot put my finger on the feeling yet . I am hoping the day will reveal a lift in my mood or some inspiration that will propel me out of funk into ecstasy (I will also take mild amusement).
This is what I do know now- I must take the next step in my commitment to myself...... I must set an intention that will inspire and guide me and then spend time meditating daily. Even if for 5 to 10 minutes. The TODAY prayer is my daily intention but I must now read it and absorb what that will mean for me today. Getting the kids off for the day launches me into a doing mode as I get out of bed and I am not a morning person!! I must find a way to say my prayer in quiet at some point - Ideally as I wake before I get out of bed and if not commit to this as a must, as if it is air to breathe. For that is my mission to completely commit to myself without fail daily - which means EVERY DAY!!
I learnt very early on while reading one of my self help books that if it is to be it is up to me and that I create my life. Every moment that has happened to me thus far is my responsibility.! Sometimes this is a hard pill to swallow - who wants to be entirely responsible for where you are in your life........
Well first it all starts with my thoughts - "WITH OUR THOUGHTS WE CREATE THE WORLD" I no longer remember who said this but I know it to be true. This is why I have to fully intend my day with thoughts in my head and be diligent in my awareness of any negativity that floats through my mind. This is what I mean by 'Moment by Moment Awareness'.
First comes the commitment - BE DO HAVE -COMMIT , COMMIT - CONSISTENCY IS KEY! I am not so good at consistency - how do I change this about myself . It is the impatience with which our lives are measured in the modern world - 'make a million dollars now , loose 10 lbs in 10 days' it is constantly around us . Things cannot happen fast enough and results must be instant. That must be what I am feeling I have not lost 20 lbs yet in less than a week and I am disappointed in myself - HA! That is it- BE DO HAVE! Be in the moment , can I do it. No instant gratification just plodding along . One of my spiritual teachers once told me that in NYC there are plenty of people trying to be extraordinary and what is truly extraordinary is being ordinary. Make sense ? Finding the courage to be yourself.... to be ordinary you.

My whole life I have compared myself to others and for today I will not do that and be ordinary ME!

Namaste,
Natalie

Acceptance and Reality of Life........

Well I awoke this morning to the reality of my day to day life and how it affects my ability to focus on my task. What task say you ? The one I  told the whole world that I am doing, losing 20 pounds connecting with my spirit by honoring myself. 

Well love, this is my own journey - here is how the day to day goes- It is summer and friends come over with their 2 kids to play in the pool with our 2, while Emily cooks veggie paella on the barbecue and brings all the 'fixins' and wine to go with.... Yummy , I had two helpings!! My dearest friend has her 40th birthday party Saturday at a restaurant /nightclub and then it is Father's Day barbecue at home. Food and libations galore and yes I did partake in both. There was a certain amount of awareness but after a magnum of champagne.... will I lose any weight at this rate? And, when have I focused /connected with my spirit ? There is a silver lining as the one promise I made to myself last week I did follow through on- Yoga on Friday . Ohh... so good and as I was in my downward dog I notice my arms; my bubbly arms and had to breathe and accept them again ( for the thousandth time). Acceptance  of my current body is so important -any evidence of self hatred must be loved away!! If I am in judgement of self I am not present and my ego mind will take me down a path that I like to call "a time waster/no mans land" It serves no purpose than to remind me to get present and breathe.

So here is how I accept my current body-
Naked in front of the mirror I look and check out every inch front to back . Notice the feelings of disgust and maybe some of appreciation . The appreciation is your acceptance . If I am really having trouble with accepting my body as I see it now I sit still close my eyes and in my mind I infuse every part, every inch , every molecule with white light and allow myself to feel gratitude for myself. Appreciation of self is so important and sometimes to get connected I light my favourite Nag Champa incense or a candle fragrance I love. I also have this patchouli spray from Lolablue that just brings be back to a centered place. This exercise for me serves two purposes- to become present with my feelings and to connect to my higher self, for the moment  I can feel gratitude I know I can engage the part of me that is real,alive and full of love. Obviously in Yoga class I do not do this entire exercise but I quickly acknowledge how I feel and just say yes this is me bubbly arms and and I am grateful for you bubbly arms! I even smile at them.
                             

The moment I accept

myself the way I am,

all burdens simply disappear. 

retouched model photo

early morning no makeup unretouched family photo

Now I have been doing this for a long time and I also have some external help as being a plus model there is an acknowledgement/reward that I recieve over the years through my job, but even getting paid as a full figured model I still worked to keep weight off.  My weight has followed me my whole life, since I was a baby!! The story is so old I am bored to even go into it, but alas one can change their story I have heard and I shall change mine.

Change your story to the one you want. Let me know your tricks! 
One of greatest lessons in my life is that we have to all find our own way whatever we do but sharing of self reminds me we are all the same.

Namaste.

Natalie 

A Year In The Making

Here we go ...again.
Over a year ago I made the decision to completely change my relationship with my body by actually losing weight that I had accepted as part of my being, my life, my very identity. Now this acceptance is a good thing - my acceptance of my body was a process that led me to love myself and my imperfect form and imperfect ways.  It led me closer to who I am and living my truth. Yet here I was ready to move on to a new phase of living in my life, that needed to fall in line with a rediscovered belief that being present in the now, practicing moment by moment awareness of the ego mind will lead me to peace and happiness and yes dare I say it lose weight!!!
This all started when a year ago a reality show- Celebrity Fit Club(Celebrity Fit Club on VH1) asked me if I would be interested in doing the show.  I had to ask myself some hard questions as I was not just a well known plus model (NatalieLaughlin.com) but someone who had recovered from an eating disorder and spoke around the country about finding happiness by accepting and loving yourself in your full figured body.
How could I now go on TV and try to lose weight , would that not betray the very message of self acceptance and love of self, as is, that I spouted. Here's the thing--my life had gone through a major upheaval in the last 8 years and I was no longer the "chubby pretty girl" or the "beautiful plus model with her own billboard in times square" . I am a mother of two children that I gave birth to in my 40's - a boy 7 and a girl 5 and I left my career and life of 20 years living in NYC, jet setting around the world to create a new one in Sarasota, Florida with my infant family. My husband also started a new business. I devoted all my energy to my new role as mother and wife and now seven years in I was ready to discover who I am again .
I decided to say yes to the show not really liking the whole reality based explosive, self indulgent, trashy side . I thought I could somehow elevate the content by focusing on the spiritual side of self and how that element ties into losing weight. I was ready to explore on camera how this would work , or can it work ?? The irony that doing this experiment on television where ones ego is completely in play did cross my mind but I was ready for the challenge. Well after days of physical and emotional testing I was flown to California and even taped part of the show. In my first segment they filmed me meditating, as this was kind of my message - lose weight by focusing inward - as I sat cross legged in  a producers house (pretending it was mine) the producer on set asked me to put on makeup in the middle of my meditation - now I laughed at him, knowing full well what he was getting at - model meditating - right -but what did I do ? Stick to my guns and say no......... I picked up the makeup brush and applied blush in the middle of meditation. So I had a lot to learn! Here I was thinking I was going to teach by example. I discovered I was not strong enough in myself and my need to please others over rode standing up for my deep beliefs. The realization that had I been meditating regularly I would have stood my ground and said no was so clear.
Lesson one /note to self- Be /Do/ Have .
That night before the boot camp was to begin I still had not been accepted on the show, my agent was convinced, but I knew that anything is possible and finally I got the call that VH1was making another decision. That's show business !
I can be completely honest with you that I truly felt it was meant to be. I accepted the news as I knew I was being taken care of on another level - The Universe had other plans for me. I was disappointed but was able to separate mentally and emotionally from my disappointment. The moment the negative thoughts came in to my head I looked at them in my mind and was aware, this stopped the crazy voice chatter and I felt calm, ready for what lay ahead. Thank you Eckhart Tolle ( I am a student -a freshman who wants to graduate). I also was not enthused about the prepackaged food diet. I had done that before and I am a fresh food, organic mostly eater.
Fake food only ever worked temporarily for me.
Back to Florida I went, full of enthusiasm that I was going to do this on my own and I did lose weight . I got into better shape and began exploring working as a model again. That adventure is a whole other story but the short of it is I began to work and it took my focus away from my mission . How could I be a plus model and continue to loose weight. My energy was directed from more of a whole perspective as I lost weight, not based on just food and restriction of self but on fulfillment of my spirit. I will explain more about this as I go through the process here in the days ahead, for those who are interested.
This is my experiment and although I know it works, keeping it going as I live my life has proved more challenging.

Now I am excited to share this journey . Today I am 188 pounds my intention is to lose 20 pounds and do it without deprivation or following a specific diet. I will lose this weight by living consciously, practicing moment by moment awareness. I will do this with love of self, seeing and feeling clearly the triumphant outcome and in the process deal with my life in an authentic way finding my authentic voice. Details to come......... Let's have some fun!!!

Namaste,
Natalie

Feed Your Soul And Lose The Weight

Today is the day that I begin!

I commit to Myself. I commit to living the highest ideal for the truth and honor in the search for the core of my being.
Today I begin with my commitment to be present-one moment at a time.
Today I am aware one moment at a time.
Today the ' I ' that is full of alive,positive energy takes the lead in my life and I let go of my thinking mind that is based in fear and paralyzes me in moving forward in my life.
Today I take this pledge and gently do my best.
Today I am full of love for myself- my body,my heart, my mind.
Today I am joyous.
Today I Breakaway and begin anew.

I truly believe that the time has come for me to settle my weight as the non issue in my life that it should be, meaning that it is just lbs and it does not need to define me anymore as a plus woman or a thin woman. Loosing the weight will leave me bare and I know the task will be revealing for me and many women/ mothers who find themselves on this journey, it is the renewal of discovery of self that I am after, coming full circle into who I am meant to be -into my own power, nothing outside myself to hide behind or bolster my identity but the truth and the reality of living
ones life fully in joy and in the present. That is what I believe achieving my goal weight will do for me-bring me into the Now of my full potential!





Namaste,

Natalie L